| Sometimes Adultery is preferable to Divorce. |
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By Eva Kent It's repeated millions of times. Boy meets girl. Boy likes girl and girl likes boy. This
sometimes leads to a marriage. Often marriage leads to a couple of kinds, a mortgage, numerous credit cards charged to the hilt and a car loan of two. Boy works his butt off trying to keep them afloat. Often the girl, feeling that she has accomplished most of what has been expected of her, starts to let herself go. First comes the extra pounds, and then other aspects of her appearance begin to suffer. Soon the wife bears very little resemblance to the wispy little girl that originally attracted the attention of the boy. He starts to lose interest in intimacy. She does too. The seed of unhappiness germinates and grows as time goes by. The prospect of divorce starts to become a real possibility. But then reality starts to set in. The boy and girl start to realize that it's just not as simple as going their seprate ways. It's even more complicated if he is the only one working outside the house and she is a stay at home mom. Chances are that with the usual debts he is barely able to support one household and supporting two is out of the question. If mom has not worked in years chances of her being able to quickly get in a position to support herself and help support the kids is slim. Some couples are able to cope with being hostage to their economic circumstances for years. They merely bury the unhappiness and just hope for a big game changer that will modify their situation. But more often than not, the frustration builds up for at least one of the pair to the point that something just has to give. Statistically it is usually the man who strays outside the marriage first. What is really an interesting fact is that most married men who have an affair end up dating a married woman. Many see married dating as a horrible sin. Others believe it is a lesser evil than putting a couple of kids through the poverty grinder. The most important thing is to not be discovered. Nothing has the power to make a bad situation worse than being discovered in an illicit affair. Several sports stars and high profile politicians can attest to the hell that can break loose once an affair is uncovered. Eva Kent is a professional relationship coach. http://evakent.com |